And yes, he came back…. Dreaming about your ex coming back is a fairly common dream. Dreaming of her ex-boyfriend awakens dormant emotions, moods you had forgotten; multiple memories resurface and are brought back to your consciousness. The dream may occur in the immediacy of the breakup, even if it was you who broke up the relationship.
There are those who dream of their ex very often, every night; there are those who come back to dream about it after many years. These are all normal situations, although it may seem strange that someone from the past is still so present in your mind.
You still have feelings for your ex - that's an all-too-obvious interpretation, but almost never true. Almost! :) There are many other meanings as you will see as you read.
It's romantic to believe that an ex-lover appearing in dreams means he's thinking of you, or that you should get back together... But there's no reason to jump to those conclusions, especially if you are now in a relationship with another person.
Dissatisfaction, frustration: the ex may appear in dreams in times of stress and discomfort, especially if your relationship has been rocky. This serves as a warning, to avoid falling back into the mistakes of the past, even in relation to the links and situations you are currently experiencing.
Nostalgia, regret: the dream can make you relive positive experiences and good times with the ex. It can help you understand what you could do to be happier, what you lack in life (more freedom, more passion, more carelessness, being with someone, etc.).
Aspects of your personality: your ex embodies aspects of your personality that you have neglected or disavowed (your “shadow”, in Jungian terms); in this sense it is a positive dream, which leads you to a greater awareness, to the recovery of these qualities and to an appreciation of your personality.
Your current partner: the ex in the dream may represent your partner now, perhaps because you perceive him as "alike"; even if they don't look alike, they are linked by their role in your life. For example, this dream can happen when you start a new relationship with another person.
Even if you no longer think about your ex-boyfriend, and even if you are very much in love with another man now, this person has left an "emotional trace" in your psyche that cannot be erased.
Even if you don't feel anything for him anymore, even if you never think about him during the day, there may be times in your life when, for one reason or another, he reappears on a dream level because it is a true 'symbol' of situations, emotions, phases of your life.
If you had a great love with your ex, your souls have really united and therefore something of him survives in you, even after many years; the bond that has been created is indelible and can be felt in dreams telling you something about that person, even after years of not seeing them.
This also explains why sometimes the dream is premonitory: you dream of your ex and soon you meet him, or hear from him; it's because of that special bond.
In the immediacy of the breakup: even if it was you who left the ex, even if you do not regret this choice because you are convinced that you have done the right thing, the separation remains a trauma, more or lesser, of which you must recover; the dream helps you realize the end of the relationship.
When the relationship ends for no reason: if you have been abandoned without receiving an explanation, or if certain important points have remained unanswered, the separation is particularly painful and there is a great tendency to ruminate on what happened. In this case, the dream can be therapeutic and restorative.
Your ex was violent: even then, the dream helps you heal from the trauma and distance yourself from that person who hurt you.
When you are about to start a new relationship: Dreams about your ex can become very frequent because you need to clear your consciousness of his cumbersome "shadow". Even before marriage, you may dream of your ex several times.
Dreaming about your first love, the first boy or the first girl you were with is a dream that can occur periodically throughout your life. Maybe the dream wants to bring you back to those feelings of freshness, freedom, and vitality that your current relationship lacks; you need a problem-free, responsibility-free, carefree, spontaneous, clean and romantic relationship like the one you experienced as a teenager.
The appearance of your ex in a dream can be very different from what he is in reality. It may indicate a different way of seeing things from you; for example, dreaming of the ex in black and white, from the back, dressed in black, could indicate that you feel him from afar, that you consider him with more detachment. Seeing him older or bearded can also mean that you perceive him as more mature.
These are typical post-breakup dreams: the ex comes back, looks at you, writes you, sends you a message, calls you, looks for you, apologizes, wants to get back together, make peace with you; maybe he says "I love you" and asks you to marry him. They can occur either in the event that it was you who left it, or vice versa; they show nostalgia, but at the same time they help you get used to the idea that this person is no longer a part of your life.
Dreaming of an ex kissing you, hugging you, making love to you: these are all dreams that indicate that you are in some way "united" with this person, because they helped form your personality.
Dreaming about an ex who does not speak, indifferent, cold, who does not want you, who rejects you: a dream in which the ex is cold and does not tell you why, shows your insecurities; the separation has destabilized you.
Dreaming about an ex running away, who is leaving - the ex who is leaving indicates that you miss this person, but you know that you will not be able to be with him anymore.
Dreaming about an ex yelling, insulting you, abusing you : dreaming of arguing with the ex can serve to evacuate the tensions accumulated in the relationship.
Dreaming about an ex beating you, wanting to kill you - it can be a warning from your psyche that warns you of the dangers you run if you get back together with your ex; the relationship is probably too suffocating.
Dreaming of an ex with a new girlfriend, who is getting married, who is expecting a child - if you dream of the ex boyfriend who has a new spouse, who is about to become a dad, it indicates that you have accepted the end of the story, even if you still retain a special connection with him; seeing him happy is a good sign. The same is true if you dream that your ex girlfriend is with someone else, is getting married, is pregnant.
Dreaming of an ex who is sad, crying, sick, asking for help, hurt, sick, in the hospital – these are all dreams that manifest feelings of guilt towards him.
Also, this dream might indicate feeling guilty towards him, especially if he commits suicide. But dreaming that your ex is dead can also indicate that you no longer feel love for him and that you are ready to move on, probably start a new affair, with someone who may already be on your mind. .