Have you ever heard of the shadow work? In personal development and spirituality, we hear this term everywhere. But what does that mean exactly? And how do we practice that?
Because yes, it is possible to learn to dance with our less luminous facets, to accept our faults as well asimprove our bad patterns through this "shadow work". I explain to you.
If writing isn't your cup of tea, use speaking. Unfortunately, having a therapist is not within everyone's reach (when will therapy be covered by the government?), although I strongly suggest that you consult a mental health professional if you feel the need. If you can afford it, it can help a lot. And don't forget, a therapist has to be shopped. You have to find the right fit! If it doesn't work the first time, don't lose hope, it's just not the right therapist for you.
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If therapy is not possible, maybe you have a precious person in your life who allows you to speak with vulnerability and who is ready to welcome you without judgment? And vice versa. If possible, create you and her home therapy sessions together where only two rules exist: be honest and don't judge.
The body is also an incredible guide when you take the time to reconnect with it. and to follow the discomforts and tensions that he shows us (for this, you can use somatic meditations).
Shaking (a technique where you move the body intensely by “shaking” all the parts) can also help. Our body holds tons of repressed emotions and wounds. Movement can help release them: and it's completely normal to burst into tears without understanding why after a few minutes!
As long as you do it in a space where you feel safe.
Finally, shadow work is to stop ignoring our sores. This is why this work on you can be really unpleasant at times, but it is so necessary to evolve. Shadow work allows us to freeing us from many wounds, preconceived ideas, patterns, labels that have been imposed on us (and that we continue to accept).
The shadow work will have helped me, among other things, to finally set my limits and to distance myself from people pleasing, to stop worrying about the opinions of others.